I have no point to argue that Parent’s rights are supreme in our religion. But here the word RIGHT is well misperceived. We have to care parents, we have to treat them well, we have to deal them gently once they arrived old age, we have to love them and regard them as they are the guardians of ours appointed by God. But in any case parents are not the OWNERS of ours. Even no one is the Owner of ours. The OWNER (MALIK) is one and He is Allah. Allah is the only source of accepting someone as right or wrong.
I have been thinking many things regarding these issues for last many years and I came to the point that due to many errors in our conversion to Islam after arrival of Muhammad Bin Qasim in this region, we are still HINDUS. We always prefer culture and conventions against the open commandments of Allah. Even our Islamic Scholars are quite because they know that there survival is because of this brutal conventional system of society. I always believe when Quran says if your parent, family, wealth and the fear of the trade loss is important for you than Allah’s commandments so we don’t need you. But here we are making our parent, society, family, wealth, culture and trade a god within. We always prefer to force our brutal conventions and present them as Islamic values.
I must say those children who don’t care their parents are criminal before Allah and those children who weight their parent over Allah’s commandments are also criminals before Allah. I don’t think there is any rocket science required to understand this point. I accept that parent and society have many rights on us but how parent and society can have a right that even Allah is not claiming for him and He clearly stated that it is the right of a human being to exercise.
Those who think that now daughters are not burying alive are living in the world of imagination. We have been burying our daughters for long even after hearing the message of Allah clearly. Burying doesn’t mean burying daughters alive beneath the land or sand but it is also there when someone burry his daughter’s consent and forcefully implement his will. This has been going on in many shapes but one of it is FORCE MARRIAGES. In our society there are many racists who think that we can only marry daughter in family even if her will is not there. The objective is just to stabilize the social standings and their family property. Those who do this have to be hated but in our society we are so ignorant and no one is providing justice on this issue.
In this regard for ignorant Muslims I don’t want to say something without quoting the words of Allah and Prophet S.A.W. So I would like you all to read the below (with references from Quran & Hadith)
- Allah Almighty said in the Noble Quran: “O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of the dower [money given by the husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good. (The Noble Quran, 4:19)
- ‘Truly Allah has totally forbidden disobedience (and the subsequent hurt) to mothers, burying alive daughters, with-holding the rights of others, and demanding that which is not your right.’ (Hadith Muslim 4257. Recorded by Mughirah b. Shuba).
- Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas: “A virgin came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father had married her against her will to her cousin (for their social standing), so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) allowed her to exercise her choice. (Translation of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2091)”
Complete Version from Bukhari of this Hadith
Khansa Bint Khidam said “My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace). He said to me “accept what your father has arranged.” I said “I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.” He said “then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.” I said “I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have no right to force a marriage on them). (Fathul Bari Sharah Al Bukhari 9/194, Ibn Majah Kitabun Nikah 1/602)
(the point to learn that these kind of marriages had declared as invalid (void) from Prophet S.A.W. desk) - Abu Da’ud, on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas recorded that “A [girl who was not married] came to the Messenger of God and mentioned that her father had married her against her will, so the Prophet allowed her to exercise her choice.”
- Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as having said: “A woman without a husband (or divorced or a widow) must not be married until she is consulted, and a virgin must not be married until her permission is sought. They asked the Prophet of Allah (may peace be upon him): How her (virgin’s) consent can be solicited? He (the Holy Prophet) said: That she keeps silence. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 008, Number 3303)”
I have quoted the key verses of Quran & Hadith to let you people know what out religion says and believe me Muslims; no one is superior from ALLAH & His Prophet S.A.W. So I want an answer from all parent and scholars of Muslims world. Are we willing to fight against Allah’s commandments? Are we superior from Allah? Are we the Owners of daughter and we have a right to burry their consents to force our will where Allah is saying don’t go against their will?
I am requesting to the parent of daughters to come under the umbrella of JUSTICE otherwise your aftermath is the worst and your life here after shall be hell. Please convert to Islam in full. Don’t hang up in culture, society and traditions. Our sole culture, tradition and society are Islam. I request those daughters who commit promises with man for marrying and then breach their promise by saying that our parent will is not there. If it was not your will when you made commitments so you are accountable before Allah and if you are being forced for breaching your commitment, it simply means you are accepting your parent above Allah and His Prophet S.A.W.
I know it is not the easiest of task but if people who are educated like me shall go to Islamic Schools and become Muftis, and then we can fight against their oppression. Parent in any case should not be hurt by our (negative) acts. They must be cared and respected. But if someone places his/her parent above Allah and his Messenger S.A.W. shall be penalize in this world and the world hereafter. We have to stand up and face problems for justice but sitting quite is a sin within. I hope this is the start and one day we shall have Islam as our sole convention, culture and tradition. Today I have no power, I am just a researcher, student and novice to Islamic System but if Allah will give me a power one day I shall execute all those families and parent by JUSTICE who bury their daughters alive without any mercy. May Allah guide me and guide every one of us to leave our sins by thinking it as culture or Islam (a misperceived version).